I have several guy friends. As a 21st century worldly, urban and urbane woman in her 30′s, I make no excuse for this (fathers and boyfriends, however, sometimes need convincing). I’ve never slept with any of my guy friends because quite simply that would take us beyond the friendship post and into another playing field altogether. What I know of my friends, however, what I can intimately intuite from these guys is that they wouldn’t mind exchanging our friendship indefinitely for a quick go in the sack. I know this resolutely, as some have come right out and said so. It bothers me a tad that a friendship could be so casually called in for quick bliss. But I have to admit, despite the very real fact that this sort of behaviour borders on “tsk-tsk” when I’m in a relationship, I secretly love it! Such an ego stroke it is to sit down across from someone and know they want you and you know they know they want you – and with all that sexually charged air between you – you do absolutely nothing except a lot of smiling and arm touches. It has such momentum, I wonder if it isn’t that and only that, which keeps the friendships going. Does flirting mean you can’t be friends? Does flirting have to go somewhere? Something doesn’t seem quite right if I feel such guilty pleasure hanging out with my guy friends.
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You are naughty! And they say it is a man’s world? Haha. Women have us by the belt, and lead us around as they please. I love it.
Being led around the belt isn’t such a bad thing, is it?? As long as you think you have have some control over the situation….smart women know that a man at least needs to perceive having the upper hand!!
I think men like the chase. I know I do. It adds to the anticipation. But once in bed take charge. Not that letting the woman have control isn’t fun too.
I think women enjoy the sense of power they can have. You know, the more I think about this, the more complex it gets. So I’ll stop here and get my dose of cleavage this morning.
Well, done, John! Knowing when to stop is an excellent skill that many have yet to hone! The perception of power, whether in the bed or not, is a complex issue – I think it probably works best if both parties involved have a healthy dose of mutual trust and respect.
Thanks. I could not have said it better.